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Interview with Tami Heim

Seven years ago, we met over coffee and, as they say, the rest is history. Tami Heim has not only been a friend, but a huge influence in my life. She is the CEO and President of Christian Leadership Alliance. She is a mom to Zoe and grandma to two. But, God wasn’t finished.

Her and her husband, Dale, just recently adopted a little girl from Haiti. I have had the privilege of meeting Sania and she is one of the sweetest little girls you’ll ever meet.

In this interview, we talked about the adoption process, the perseverance it took, and the joy it brings.

I can’t wait for you to hear her heart today!

Join us.

IN THIS EPISODE

  • How her Pastors tweets kept her captivated with Haiti
  • How a church leader asked a question that would change their life forever.
  • From being in the delivery room with her first grandbaby to filling out adoption papers at the same time.
  • The hard process of adoption
  • How the No’s became Yes’s
  • How a prophetic word changed the course of the why
  • What brought Tami to tears
  • How parenting is different the second time around

PERSPECTIVE

Parenting in the NOW moments

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ENCOURAGING VERSE

Hebrews 12:1 – “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us”

MY FAVORITE TAKE AWAY(S)

If we try to say why we couldn’t do what God’s invited us into, we would be so selfish.

God showed us what it is to go to the very edge of impossible.

Even in our inadequacy, God makes up the difference. - Tami Heim

CONVERSATION:

What part of the interview, if any, changed your perspective? What if God wants you to pursue adoption?  We would love to hear your story.

Stop Asking God What To Do

Prayer
God, what am I supposed to do with my life? God, what have you called me to do?

God, what is my purpose?

Sound familiar?

I used to pray the same thing.

Over and over again.

It seemed like every day I would wonder what God had for my life.

Then I stopped.

In December of last year, I changed my prayer. I stopped asking God what it was He had for me, what His purpose was for my life, and I began to just say:

God, I have nothing to offer you, but me. I have no money, no title, and no position. I have no ministry, nothing.  I only have me to give you.

In His sweet Spirit He whispered, “That is all I ever wanted”.

From that moment, I have had the privilege to do some incredible things in the last 3-4 months since offering up myself to Him. Sure, I’ve had some amazing things happen throughout my life; missions, ministry, etc., but there is something about God clearly opening doors and shedding light on the paths that bring your eyes upon Him and Him alone.

I wonder how many of us are praying those same words - the “What Am I” prayers.

The ones that can leave us empty and wondering.

Unfulfilled and not at peace.

God wants us to live a full life. One that He can use. A life that is offered back to Him.

When we offer ourselves fully to Him with no agenda, no trades, just a true sacrifice of us; watch Him put you in places you would have never imagined. Watch God open doors that would never have been opened.

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Stop counting yourself out as not good enough or not qualified enough.

Last I read God was for you and not against you. That you are the head and not the tail, above only and not beneath.

God doesn’t make mistakes. 

Well, don’t get me started. I may end up preaching!

How Happy People Stay Happy

Happy People
In Hebrew, the word “morning” means “to break forth”. For many of us, morning also means alarm clocks and an unsettling rush. But, do you ever wonder what makes happy people so happy? I'm sure happiness can be found on a remote island with beautiful ocean waves and impeccable first-class service meeting your every need or maybe their bank account is full of money, leaving them with no worries to their future. But, you and I know that doesn’t make a lasting life of happiness.

I find as I get older that the early mornings are the best time to focus on the day ahead and what I’m to do in it. Each morning is truly a brand new opportunity. Each day is a new day “to break forth” and set out all that needs to be accomplished.

There seems to be a pattern with happy people and successful mornings, they have consistency and discipline. You sense a well-being and contentment around them. So I began to really think about what makes someone happy? What makes them get up and have a “break forth” attitude? Here is what I found:

They wake up with a Thank You on their lips – They start their day with gratitude. There is something about saying Thank You for another day that brings a joy to the day. They lean over and lean into their spouses, dogs, children, whatever it is, with a heart of thankfulness for the morning.

They are intentional about the day – It’s the after they get out of bed that their “to break forthbegins. The more we ask God what He has for us today seems to bring a happiness to serve. Each morning brings a new day. It’s during the day where we are intentional sets us up for a good day. You find happy people because they see their life’s purpose in the day to day.

They pray – Some of the happiest people are spiritual. Prayer is a way to give thanks to God for our blessings He has given us. Waking up with a heart of gratitude and speaking thankfulness establishes a peace within us.

They read – Whether they grab their Bible, a devotion, or a blog of affirmations, happy people are readers. Starting the day with the Word in you tells your day who is in charge and whose path you seek to follow.

They eat breakfast – They say breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It is. Feeding your body a bunch of carbs will have you sluggish for most of your day. Connect your body to real foods that we were intended to eat. You will find your mind sharp and your body healthy.

They exercise – Morning people are great with adding exercise to their daily routine. Taking a walk or jog gets the heart pumping and stimulates the body. Walking is also proven to stimulate creativity in the brain, which isn’t a bad way to start the day either.

They are present in the moment – You won’t find too many cell phones around happy people that are in a conversation or at one of their kids ball games. They are there in the moment. To be present is to be in the now. [Tweet "Happy people don’t capture the moment for what is seen, but in the unseen conversations of life with others."]

At the end of the day, its people that enjoy the moment that seem to be the happiest.  You will find them with their family and friends soaking in each minute of the day, living as though it was their last.  Happy people are grateful people.  Happy people live life to the fullest with what they have and what they are given.

"This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it."- Psalm 118:24

“Joy is the serious business of Heaven.” - C. S. Lewis

How many of these habits do you do in the morning? Add some in the comments below that you would like to share?

Wednesday Wisdom - Trusting God

Let's get honest, sometimes the hardest thing to do is trust God.  When we don't see things going the way we want or it seems as though the money isn't coming in as fast, we tend to doubt and fear that God must not be aware of all that is going on.  We don't trust Him that He has everything under control.  Today, I hope these words encourage you to trust the faithfulness of God.

Let Him Take His Time

patienceIn our continuation of discussing the Potter and the clay (Read Day 1 and Day 2), let’s look at the beginning process the piece of clay has to endure. Once the potter puts the clay on the wheel, slow and steady turns are needed.  If he speeds up the wheel any faster, the lump of clay will again, just like not adding water, tear apart before he can finish it.

In the same way, we have to have patience with God on how He wants to work and build our lives up in Him. In our fast-paced, self-centered world, we are used to instant everything. But in God’s realm, He usually works things out in a much slower time frame than we are used too.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.  – Isaiah 55:8-9

And if we do not learn how to go with His slower pace and time frame, we could end up getting very frustrated and impatient, and then eventually end up getting in the way instead of patiently waiting on Him

Not waiting on God’s timing on who you should be marrying in this life could cause you to marry the wrong person in this life. Not waiting on the next new job you should be taking could cause you to take a major wrong turn in the divine destiny that God already has planned out for your life, and it could then end up costing you years of wasted and unproductive time, trust me I’ve been there.

Just as a good potter has to take his time when molding and forming out this piece of pottery as it is spinning on the wheel – in the same way God has to mold, shape, and transform all of us in this same, slow, and steady manner. This is why one of the 9 fruits of the Holy Spirit is the fruit of patience. We all need the patience of the Holy Spirit operating in us to help keep us in God’s timing with how He wants to work things out in our lives, especially in the fast-paced world in which we all live in.

Today let Him take His time.

Praying Scripture Is Like Eating Lucky Charms

One of the things I am praying for in 2011 is that more women would have compassion for each other. Every woman has a story.  Every woman has a testimony.  But a testimony is a result of something that has been finished. A race that has been completed.  I’m talking about those women that are right now "smack dab" in the middle of their story. Women that are dealing with depression. Dealing with fear and anxiety of the unknown.  Maybe they don’t look right or fit our standard of beauty.  Maybe their dealing with poverty or divorce.  We don’t know but we have to open our hearts with compassion. To give them the love of Christ through us. We have to reach the lost in this world.  I wholeheartedly believe that.  But we also need to reach the Christian woman that is lost in her own world.

I love what Steve Furtick talks about in his book Sun Stand Still and how he writes about praying scripture.  Do you know how powerful that is!  Praying scripture is like eating Lucky Charms…you only want the marshmallows. It’s like eating the meat without drinking the milk.  Scripture is so powerful when you speak it over your circumstance.

Maybe you’re reading this right now and saying this is me. I’m dealing with depression and not looking forward to 2011.  Maybe you’re reading this and having financial difficulty or marriage problems.  I’m telling you open that Bible, but before you do that, ask God to show you scriptures that will help you in your circumstance.  It’s not reading a Psalm, a Proverb or reading a whole chapter of Luke.  It’s finding scripture that feeds your spirit.

I John 4:4 – Greater is He that is in me than he who is in the world.

Psalm 23:4 - Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Deuteronomy 31:8 – He will never leave you nor forsake you.

These are just some of the incredible verses He gives us to remind me and you that He understands and hasn’t forgotten about you.

Maybe you’re reading this and it hits a cord with you.  Maybe you judged another women for their appearance (let’s get honest; us women tend to do that from time to time). Maybe they were dirty or smelled and you didn’t want to be around them.  Maybe on the outside she looked ok with her smile and laughter yet was hurting because she and her husband are having problems yet we took it as it must not be that bad since she’s smiling.  Or maybe we saw a mom at Target with her 3 young children looking like she was about to just burst in tears and we just kept on pushing our cart thinking eventually she’ll figure out how to manage. Then this post is for you.  I pray that this year, 2011, we become women that are bolder in Christ.  Women that offer help and hope to other women-these women.  Because it might be us that God puts in their life to bring them back to finish their story.

Write the Vision Down For 2011

I am so excited for Thursday night!  I am having some wonderful women that are in ministry, or influencing others, to come over my home and pray. We are going to be praying over our vision or goals for 2011. Habakkuk 2:2 – “And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tablets, that he may run that readeth it.”

I did this for several years and about 3 years ago stopped because Jose and I were fighting our own battle…finances! In those three years, we continued to write our lists and pray over them ourselves. We are here to say there are a few things that we have seen God answer and cross off our list.

This week I felt as though God was telling me what He gave as a vision needed to come out and dusted off.  So I’m doing this again with God’s help.  This year will be different.  In a new home with some new friends meeting some old ones.  Praying for each other’s visions and dreams. Praying for each other’s professional and personal requests.  Writing each of them down and laying hands on them.  Each “tablet” filled with hope, dreams, and tears. I can think of no other way to start the New Year in celebrating all that He will do in 2011!

What's on your "tablet" for 2011?

Delayed But Not Denied

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This is the time of year we begin to look at our list of goals and answered prayers and begin crossing out all that has been accomplished.  For some that can mean weight loss, selling your home, debts canceled or the birth of a child. For others it can mean disappointment and failure to accomplish everything you set out to do in the new year.
Then the LORD answered me and said: “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. – Habukkuk 2:2

I want to remind you those dreams that you have this year may seem impossible. What if they might just be delayed but not denied?

We will always have seasons of struggles and testing.  There are going to be times when everything we attempt to do will seem to go wrong. But somehow we need to realize there is a purpose for these temporary inconveniences.  Isn’t it amazing though that during these times these inconveniences destroy our pride in our own ability and reinforce our dependency on the sufficiency of God!

II Corinthians 4:17 says, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all”.

Some things we are just not meant to change…but to survive!

We need to be like a tree!  See when a tree’s roots are planted, the sap and substance are underground and although the seasons come and the leaves fall, the root never dies.  In spring it will flourish NEW fruit.

I can't wait for Spring!

Aristotle said “Patience is a tree whose root is bitter but its fruit is sweet”.

[clickToTweet tweet="With patience we gain trust." quote="Our temporary circumstances don’t always require action. It may just require prayer which brings patience. And with patience we gain trust."]

Habukkuk 3:3 – For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.

Our struggle is waiting for the appointment we have with destiny!

God is a God of order.  He does everything by appointment. He has a set appointment to bring to pass His promise in our lives.

Definition of Appointment – a meeting already set up

Through the tough times (and some of us have had some tough ones!) and in the waiting process, we know God has a plan of escape or destiny.  That’s our comfort!

Philippians 4:7 – And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Just know that nothing the enemy tries will change the plan of God for our lives!

Even if your circumstances contradict your purpose, your purpose will always prevail. It’s the opposition that shows us that God is working.

Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

An example of this is Eve.  The Lord promised her a seed. (Gen. 3:15What she thought to be the promise were real problems. Her son Cain was jealous of his brother Abel and in one swoop all of Eve’s dreams lay dead in the ground when Cain killed Abel.  Here she was suppose to be the mother of all living and yet all she has raised is a corpse and a murderer.

Aaahhh, but then there came Seth, which means substitute.  Eve began to realize God’s plan was still in motion. His plan never changed. Eve called her son Seth for she understood if God made a promise, He will find a way to keep it even if it means appointing a substitute.

Your blessing may not come the way you want or through the person you want. But know that if God said it then rest assured, it may be delayed, but it cannot be denied!

Philippians 1:6 – being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

You cannot allow the past to affect your future.

Psalm 40:1-3 – I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. 2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. 3 He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the LORD and put their trust in him.

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The question is not always, “Do you have enough faith to receive?” but “Do you have enough faith to assume a holding pattern and wait for the fulfillment of the promise?”

Genesis 8:1 – But God remembered Noah and all the wild animals and the livestock that were with him in the ark, and he sent a wind over the earth, and the waters receded.

Where it says Noah put your name there.

And God remembered Michelle!

The Lord knows where you are and how much you have in reserve. Just before you run out, God will send the wind to blow back the waters of impossibility and provide for you.

Hebrews 6:10 – God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.

How incredible is that!  God doesn’t simply forget.

Matthew 10:30 – And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

Not only counted…but numbered!  He knows what number of hairs are in your comb.

Then you should know He has your family, your finances and your faithfulness in His view.

You might be at a place like David when he asked this question:

Psalm 8:4 – what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?

Oh, but then there is…

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

This is the time we give up on our goals or dreams.  Trust in Him that you may just be in a holding pattern. That what you are looking for may just be delayed and not denied!

Delayed But Not Denied for 2011

It’s almost 2011!! Can you believe it?!? This is the time of year we begin to look at our list of goals and answered prayers and begin crossing out all that has been accomplished.  For some that can mean weight loss, selling your home, debts canceled or the birth of a child. For others it can mean disappointment and failure to accomplish everything you set out to do in 2010.

Then the LORD answered me and said: “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. – Habukkuk 2:2

For the next few days I want to discuss with you those dreams that you had in 2010 and how they might just be delayed but not denied!

We will always have seasons of struggles and testing.  There are going to be times when everything we attempt to do will seem to go wrong. But somehow we need to realize there is a purpose for these temporary inconveniences.  Isn’t it amazing though that during these times these inconveniences destroy our pride in our own ability and reinforce our dependency on the sufficiency of God!

II Corinthians 4:17 says, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all”.

Some things we are just not meant to change…but to survive!

We need to be like a tree!  See when a tree’s roots are planted, the sap and substance are underground and although the seasons come and the leaves fall, the root never dies.  In spring it will flourish NEW fruit.

Aristotle said “Patience is a tree whose root is bitter but its fruit is sweet”.  Our temporary circumstances don’t always require action.  It may just require prayer which brings patience.  And with patience we gain trust.

Habukkuk 3:3 – For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.

Our struggle is waiting for the appointment we have with destiny!

God is a God of order.  He does everything by appointment. He has a set appointment to bring to pass His promise in our lives.

Definition of Appointment – a meeting already set up

Through the tough times (and some of you have had some tough ones!) and in the waiting process, we know God has a plan of escape or destiny.  That’s our comfort!

Philippians 4:7 – And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Just know that nothing the enemy tries will change the plan of God for our lives!

Even if your circumstances contradict your purpose, your purpose will always prevail. It’s the opposition that shows us that God is working.

Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

An example of this is Eve.  The Lord promised her a seed. (Gen. 3:15What she thought to be the promise were real problems. Her son Cain was jealous of his brother Abel and in one swoop all of Eve’s dreams lay dead in the ground when Cain killed Abel.  Here she was suppose to be the mother of all living and yet all she has raised is a corpse and a murderer.

Aaahhh, but then there came Seth, which means substitute.  Eve began to realize God’s plan was still in motion. His plan never changed. Eve called her son Seth for she understood if God made a promise, He will find a way to keep it even if it means appointing a substitute.

Your blessing may not come the way you wanted or through the person you wanted. But know that if God said it then rest assured, it may be delayed, but it cannot be denied!

Philippians 1:6 – being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

You cannot allow the past to affect your future.

Psalm 40:1-3 – I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. 2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. 3 He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear the LORD and put their trust in him.

The real test of faith is in facing the silence of being on hold. The question is not always, “Do you have enough faith to receive?” but “Do you have enough faith to assume a holding pattern and wait for the fulfillment of the promise?”

Genesis 8:1 – But God remembered Noah and all the wild animals and the livestock that were with him in the ark, and he sent a wind over the earth, and the waters receded.

Where it says Noah put your name there.  And God remembered Michelle!

The Lord knows where you are and how much you have in reserve. How much you can handle.  Just before you run out, God will send the wind to blow back the waters of impossibility and provide for you.

Hebrews 6:10 – God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.

How incredible is that!  God doesn’t simply forget.

Matthew 10:30 – And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

Not only counted…but numbered!  He knows what number of hairs are in your comb.  Then you should know He has your family, your finances and your faithfulness in His view.

You might be at a place like David when he asked this question:

Psalm 8:4 – what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?

Oh, but then there is…

Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

As we close out another year, maybe all your dreams and plans didn’t come true or you’re still waiting on the report or looking for answers.  Trust in Him that you may just be in a holding pattern. That what you are looking for may just be delayed and not denied!